Ang Lee: Filial piety is a timely concept. I never teach my children to be filial, I only teach them to be filial.

Filial piety is a timely contemplation

After filming "The Wedding Banquet" many years ago, Ang Lee said this passage: "If you have a relationship with your parents, you can love each other. There is no need to create a level contemplation.

You must serve the older ones in small ways, but everyone is a body, you must respect him, his gender orientation, his love, and you must respect and accept him in everything about him. This is a basis for peace.

I think "filial piety" is a timely concept. Of course, I can't talk about it for hundreds of years, and this is a deeply rooted existence.

But in my mind, I no longer teach my children to be "filial" as a matter of "filial piety". As long as he feels my love, he also loves me. ”

The word "filial piety" in China has been somewhat unequal since ancient times.

Because he is a strong man, he blames you without reason and you have to endure it.

Because he is a strong man, he will control your life, you must accept it.

Because he is a strong man, no matter how bad he is to you, you must take care of him and take care of him.

This is a bit unfair. Elderly is also human, sometimes he is still a bad person.

If you really love the nightclub, the nightclub is also a person with a conscience, so you will naturally love each other, be kind to you and respect you. That comes from the heart, not from the demands.

If you have to force others to be filial to you, do you have to think about why you are like this?

The word filial piety has suppressed Taiwanese people for too long. Bai Qing believes that "filial piety" depends on the target. If the other party has been smearing you and never cared about you or you, why should you sacrifice yourself to fulfill your filial piety?

The relationship between parents and children should be mutually respectful.

It is a bit too strong to say that equality is a bit demanding, but mutual respect should be achieved.

Some children speak without regard to their parents, and some parents forcefully change their children's life paths, which is not good.

You should also be generous when speaking to your parents, and parents should also respect their children's choices. You can only share your own opinions and suggestions, and you cannot make decisions for them.

If you don't hear your parents' words at night, you will feel guilty, but this shouldn't be the case. Everyone has the right to decide how to leave in life.

Even if the parents are right, if he chooses wrong, it is his life, and he has to bear it himself.

Better than to keep his children in control, it is better to let him develop a judgment ability to distinguish right from wrong from an early age, give him a good education, and make him have the ability to make good decisions. Even if he falls, it is his life.

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Author introduction: I am Bai Qing, and I look at the world with different views, absorb more positive energy, and every word I read will not be in vain. You can live better than you think!