Why don’t you have friends and can’t find your partner? Cai Kangyong revealed the "3 major mistakes in international relations": You don t know how to pick the other party at all!

. There is a small reminder that if you are willing to go out and let Mrs. Zun go for one night, pay attention to returning home, Mrs. Zun will punish you to sleep in the sand for five nights.

Kang Yong said: Talk is not a competition with bonuses. Don't rush to answer

Akun's uncle loves chatting, but he always can't remember his name. Every time his uncle can afford to chat, he will have a "jump": "The last time I met that girl, she looked like that star, that one... that one acted in that movie... what is it called... it's the one that crawled out with ghosts... she looked like the heroine of the movie that was called what was it called. What was that heroine's name... Oh, I can't remember it, anyway, that girl is exactly the same as that girl..." Akun had already heard such an unknown remark from his uncle. He saw that his uncle couldn't remember the painful way he came to him, and he also wanted to think about it. However, nine times it didn't help him, but it only increased each other's pain. So Akun didn't want to be too busy later.

In fact, this is the time when the speaker is most willing to be helped by others. If Akun could give his uncle a name and title at this time, his uncle would be as comfortable as if someone helped him take out a large piece of earwax. However, except for such moments, at other times, the person who speaks does not like to be "helped" by others. For example, a "normal" sneering process should be like this: "Among all cartoon characters, who is the easiest to borrow money from Faye Wong?" "Who? Is Mickey Mouse?" "Is it Maruko Hoshi? Or Garfield Cat?" "No, no, tell you: it's Vini Bear!" "Why? Why is it Vini Bear?" "Didn't you hear Faye Wong sing like this? "I'm willing to ∼∼Vinny, I'm willing to ∼∼Vinny, ⋯..., of course, she is most willing to borrow money to Fini!"

This sneer was a smooth speech, and the people who heard it cooperated very much, and guessed the names of Disney or other animation characters to help the atmosphere of laughter. If there is an unfamiliar sneer, the person who sneered will say, "I know! It's Vini! (Singing) I want Vini, I want Vini..." That will destroy this joke and make the person who talks cannot get out of the stage.

The symptoms are more mild, and there is a person who is "very afraid that others think they don't understand". He is obviously coming to ask you a question, but if you have said two sentences, he will make a clear decision for you: "If international hot money suddenly enters the stock market, the number of stocks who buy stocks should be —" "It should be set to stop!" he replied. In fact, you are not trying to set a stop-off point at all, but for his sake, you have to pay more effort, perfunctorily and pull the words back to the right track. But after this happens three times, the person who speaks will become impatient. "This person doesn't understand at all. It's so irritating!" Of course, it's impossible for him to have an impression of you.

In front of experts, it is useless to understand, and you will only reveal your own shortcomings. It is best to cherish the opportunity to meet experts and understand the truth well. Life is not a winning match with bonuses. What do you do when you keep answering?

Book Introduction

Cai Kangyong's Words

Author: Cai Kangyong

Publishing House: How

Publication date: 2010/04/29

Author introduction/Cai Kangyong

Baby was talking to everyone during her time. After going to school, she was forced to participate in various lectures and discussion competitions. Finally, she became tired of changing her reputation and privileges by speaking. So she was taciturn in college and read books and talked about her love, and went to the Institute for Beauty In China, I started to speak English at any time, and my body would gradually have different languages. In fact, I had different life attitudes. Then, my wonderful fate made me a person who had to speak on TV often, and I could also fight with countless experts who could speak very well. Now, I should be the one who has taught me how to speak. I used this book to share my experience and thank them.