Is it always hesitant to lose something or not? Psychologist teaches "Stop and Exit without Pain" First ask 2 questions

The New Year of the Rural Calendar is coming, and every household is busy removing it, but facing a pile of old objects like mountains, such as uniforms, memorials, gifts from friends, children's clothes, toys, etc., they are not left to use, and they are not allowed to be discarded and can't be left, which makes many people in trouble. Clinical psychologists point out that it is actually a skill to relax and leave. You can use two questions to clear your own needs, so that your mentality will no longer be burdened.

From uniforms, bookcases, cards, memorials, clothes, small items, group shopping, and exchange gifts held during social work, daily collections, ticket stubs, household appliances, furniture, clothes, toys, teaching aids, souvenirs, etc. selected when raising girls are often difficult to win. Shouldn’t you let it go? How can we judge to successfully leave?

Dalin Ci Huang Yuxiang, a clinical psychologist at the Clinical Psychology Center of the Economic Hospital, explained that life is a continuous and intensive process. Experience, knowledge, and wisdom will continue to grow, and items will be piled up continuously. Various items record our rich lives. Therefore, we will pay the meaning of the items and find it difficult to leave, and the living space is gradually filled with objects, which will make the psychology silently bear the hidden pressure, so it is necessary to "clean up" properly to give life a free space.

Before leaving things out, I asked "2 questions" first.

Huang Yuxiang pointed out that when packing up, it is not just to pack the items and place them in the invisible space for storage, but to actually move the items outside the space of life, and can be recycled, given to those in need or abandoned. This is a process that is not easy to execute. For example, even if some books have not been stored for many years, they always think that they will read them one day; some gifts and gifts are obviously not favored but can't be discarded.

Huang Yuxiang said that at this time you can try to ask yourself "whether this item is used in the near future" or "whether this item is really needed". If you cannot use it in the near future or are not what you need, it will be a reasonable choice to go alone. With self-thinking and assist in judgment and selection, it can increase the chance of successfully executing the extra items.

Viewing self-emotion through things

Some people often feel the regret, unwillingness and even feel confused when they actually want to abandon more items. But Huang Yuxiang believes that by observing the emotions, he can give himself the opportunity to think about "why do you feel sorry and why you feel reluctant." These emotions may come from the insecurity arising from the lack of experience in past matters, or from the fear of the rupture of relationships, and then clear the factors that are truly concerned about in the inner world, not the item itself, but can then remove the attachment to the item.

Huang Yuxiang suggested that by packing up, taking away the extra items alone, and removing the items from the process of pursuing items, you can know more clearly what you need and what you don’t need. From time to time, you will be constantly confused about the complex items and gradually develop into the items that can control the appropriate and suitable items. When shopping, you will also begin to think about the appearance of items entering life in advance and eliminate unnecessary items.

Huang Yuxiang said that after continuous practice, observation and reflection, distraction, resignation and separation will become a life attitude. In the long run, use the items as much as possible, make the space comfortable and create a better life!

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